Category Archives: Dating

My Mother; The Blogging “Expert”

Acquiring blog readers is hard.  Simple as that.  At times, the vast technological universe that many of us partake in can make it difficult to attract those that are the target audience you are searching for.  However, that involves you actively trying to attract an audience.  When I started this blog back in January of 2011 it was for me to share experiences that were taking place at work, at home and within my day-to-day structure.  I’ve blogged about my divorce, my job changes, working with other managers, fashion, sewing, dating, dancing, running and living with Fibromyalgia just to name a few of the most popular topics.

I started the blog as a way for me to get things off my chest that I wasn’t able to openly talk about until people started mentioning my blog.  Placing links to my blog on my personal Facebook was a way for me to share with my friends and family what I was going though.  During my marriage I lost touch with many people and have been trying to rebuild those relationships ever since.  I thought that maybe if people had an opportunity to see all the pandemonium that was going on in my brain they would understand what had been going on when we lost touch.

Outside of my circle of friends it never occurred to me that there might be others out there that are interested in hearing about my sewing projects or management techniques.  Who knew that my stories of being a 21st Century Gal would be that interesting to others?  Oh yes, that’s right…my mother!  Even at 29 it is still hard to admit that my mother is almost always right.  See what I did there with the “almost” part?  I’m sure there is something out there she might not be right about; such as biomechanical engineering or space travel.

It was my mother who started blogging before me and has shared her tips and tricks, so I guess I haven’t acquired these readers all on my own.  I might make management sound amusing, but you should see what my mom can do with the topic of cancer.  Never thought I could be laughing about cancer, but that’s how things work under her roof.  Anything and everything has the potential of being funny.  I’ll tell you what, it is rough knowing that as a teenager but quite amusing when you finally grow up and realize your parents aren’t as uncool as you once thought.

Thanks mom for sharing yet another life lesson with me.  Check out her blog, The World According to Alexandra, if you’re looking for a good laugh.  She even makes bodily functions funny instead of shamefully disgusting.  Thank you to my readers who stop back regularly.  For those of you who are just lurkers I invite you to subscribe to my blog and stick around for a bit.  There are some big changes on the horizon and I can be you won’t want to miss out on them.

2 Comments

Filed under Blogging, Culture, Dance, Dating, Fashion, Female Management Skills, Friends, Parenting, Sewing, Taking Charge of One's Health

Move Over Nappytab ‘Cause We’re Coming For You

Back in the day I posted about the “Coffee Compatibility” I have with my boyfriend.  Over the last two and a half years I’ve learned there is much more that we share then just our coffee and ice cream preference.  What I most treasure is our shared love for the performing arts.  Although we’ve only once done a show together in our teenage years, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to watch him continue his love for being on the stage.

In the last handful of years I have kind of navigated away from performing myself and turned towards the behind the scenes production side of things and it has been fun to see him taking on more projects in that regard as well.  Although he does still grace the stage every once in a while, his skills in show production seem to grow more and more every year and it has been exciting to watch his journey.  Since I switched jobs last June I haven’t taken on that many side projects myself so it has been exciting to start putting myself out there again in the last few weeks.

In formatting my resumes, and yes most performers have two, I’ve come to find that I really do have a crazy background that has come together to get me to the point I am at today.  Now I’m looking towards the future with the excitement that we might actually get to work on a project together in the coming year.  Last time we were both a part of a show it was on stage, so it will be exciting to now be working together behind the scenes.

It’s been a massive transition as I moved away from someone who had no involvement in my passion for the arts to someone who shares it with me in every way possible.  We can talk shop without worrying about having to explain everything.  We can go see productions together and evaluate them as not just patrons, but those who have been on the other side as well.  It is a pleasure to respectfully bump heads with another person’s creative vision because I’m just happy that he has one!  I think our strengths and weaknesses really compliment each other and that is why I hope we continue teaming together in the future on projects since we’re already teaming together in life.

Moving into the new house in a few months will be stressful with all the projects we’re looking at tackling within the performing arts, but I’m so thankful we’ll have more floor space to rehearse in.  Coda will finally be safe when we are staging numbers without having to hide on the couch to stay out from under our feet.  It seems like each day I learn more and more about our compatibility and it makes me happy that he so persistently stuck it out with me.  He always seemed to know that this would work, but I’m elated that I’ve had the opportunity to now see it myself on so many levels.

 

2 Comments

Filed under Dance, Dating

The Liebster Award

I have to take a moment today and extend a very generous thank you to Ginger Ray of DailyLifeWithFibromyalgia for nominating me for the Liebster Award!

“This award is given to blogs with less than 200 followers, as a way to encourage them, as well as spread love around the community.  It also shares appreciation for fellow bloggers and the wonderful work they do.”

I can’t express my gratitude enough to Ginger Ray for considering me for something like this.  I started this blog as I was tackling a difficult time in my life and I am moved that others have found the topics I touch on to be entertaining and / or informative.

I tend to tackle everything from relationships, to management techniques, to running and now sewing.  I’ve got a very broad range of experiences and interests and I think my blog is a shining example of that.  I greatly appreciate the support of my fellow bloggers that I have received over the last year and half of my blogging journey.  In an effort to spread the wealth I wish to nominate the following 5 blogs for the Liebster Award as well:

The World According to Alexandra

Growing Up Senge

Have You Met Ken?

Under The Tea Cozy

The Dancing Runner

Congratulations everyone and keep up the good work!

6 Comments

Filed under Culture, Dating, Fashion, Female Management Skills, Sewing

Katie Holmes, Thank You

Katie Holmes, you deserve a round of applause for taking a stand and doing what you felt was right for the best interest of your daughter!  We’ve all watched on from the outside as photos and rumors have swept around for years about the good, the bad and the recently ugly side of the Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise relationship.  This divorce has most definitely brought Scientology to the forefront of the news, but that’s not what I want to focus on.

Instead of pointing out all of the traditions and beliefs that many whom are not Scientologists are now questioning, I would like to hone in on Katie’s decision.  As someone who made the decision several years ago to admit that my marriage needed to end, I am proud that despite everything Katie knew would come forward she stood strong and strategically move forward with her plan.  She did what she felt to be important to protect her daughter and herself in the miserable process that is known as a divorce.

When I see photos of Katie and Suri out enjoying all that NYC has to offer it reminds me of my mom and I when we first relocated to New York after my parents divorced.  They both look relaxed, happy and genuinely enjoying some mother / daughter bonding time without any concern for the paparazzi storm that is swirling around them.  I know on the other side of this is a parent who’s world is crumbling apart, but it is hard for me to not recognize how empowered Katie looks when you see her smiling and living her life proudly with her daughter by her side.

As all kinds of crazy items about Tom’s religious beliefs have been brought to lift, I’m still amazed that their entire divorce process took only eleven days!  I’m sure with a child involved there were terms and visitation conditions that they went back and forth about, but I’m proud of Katie for doing what she felt she needed to do for the best future for her daughter (in her eyes at least).  It just proves that we each have a strong gal waiting to break out and stand up for what we feel is right no matter what might come from it.

While I’m sure there is no reason that Katie Holmes would be reading this, or even cares my opinion during the very big life change she is undergoing, I still felt it was important to put it out there in the universe that she’s reminded me that standing up for what I feel is best is still the right thing to do.  Thank you Katie!  Thank you for being a strong, now single, mother and reminding me that we all have the same potential inside of us.  Continue to be a shining example to us all and keep on smiling with that adorable young lady of yours.  Your future ahead is as bright as Suri’s smile!

3 Comments

Filed under Culture, Dating

Dreams Really Do Come True

Earlier this year I mentioned that my boyfriend was making a HUGE dream of mine come true by taking me to Chicago this year for my very first trip.  I’ve tried several times to make it to Chicago, specifically to Wrigley Field to see the Cubs play, and was never successful in making it happen myself.  In August we stepped foot in Chicago and I officially declared my boyfriend the most awesomely (yes, I’m making it a word for the moment) amazing man alive.

     

For one week we got to enjoy all that Chicago could offer us at my pace.  We visited museums, went sight-seeing, caught a show, saw some of my Florida friends who now reside in the windy city and of course went to Wrigley.  Now I always imagined that I would be a bit overwhelmed when I finally got to see Wrigley.  I envisioned myself just standing there staring at the marquee unable to move any further.  What I didn’t ever picture is what actually happened.

Prior to the game we had tickets to I insisted that we not even go near Wrigley as I wanted to see it for the very first time at my very first game.  My boyfriend totally understood and agreed so we made plans to stay on the other side of town when we first arrived.  On game day, dressed in my customized jersey he gave me for my birthday, we boarded the train and rode down to Wrigleyville.  When the doors opened at our stop it took all my strength to not bolt off of the train like a kid set loose in a candy store.  I managed to calmly make my way out of the station and down the street and then I turned the corner and saw I; that beautiful bright red and white sign was lit for the game in all of its glory.

That’s when it happened.  The action that I never expected began.  Matt turned away for just a moment to get the camera and capture my first reaction to seeing Wrigley but when he turned around and witnessed my reaction he just looked at me in complete disbelief.  There I was, standing there looking at the marquee and crying…over a baseball stadium!  Who would have guessed it?  He was so shocked he chucked a little and gave me a hug instead of taking the photo.  I never envisioned a stadium bringing me to tears, but those were just the first of many tearful moments of joy that day.

   

The ballpark was beautiful, my first hotdog at a game couldn’t have been more perfect, and everything was better than I ever could have planned it to be myself.  A few days later we went back for the tour and realized that next time it doesn’t matter where we sit as every seat has an amazing view.  It took me many years to get there, but it was so worth the wait.  Before we even left the city we made our plans to return 2 months later while traveling up north for a friend’s wedding.  We’ve definitely fallen in love with Chicago and even found a place that we became “regulars” at.  The best part of the vacation was coming home and knowing that the vacation was paid for before we left!  This is the first time I’ve traveled with such a compatible travel partner.

We did decide to put all of our meals on one of my credit cards, so that we could earn the points for what we spent, and now that our new iPhones are one order it is nice to know one will be free because of this decision.  The photos have all been downloaded on our computers, the meals were paid off as soon as we returned and we would do it all over again if we could…oh wait, we did!

2 Comments

Filed under Dating, Vacation

Stalking Isn’t Always Such A Bad Thing

It is so easy to find people online nowadays.  With multiple search engines and many different social networks, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realize that everyone has some form of an online presence.  Do you know what yours is?

In my past I have worked for organizations that allowed me to search online for information about people who were applying to work as a volunteer for us.  The first thing I would do was Google their name and then I would check their social networking pages to see what I could find out.  Were their profile pictures showing them doing things we wouldn’t want a representative of our business doing?  If so then their application was put to the side.  If their page was “clean,” or at least locked so I couldn’t see anything I shouldn’t, then they would move on to the next step in the process and still be considered.

When was the last time you stepped back and viewed the profile pages you have on the net as if you were a prospective employer?  It might be time that you take a few minutes out of your hectic schedule and make sure that what you’re putting out there is an appropriate representative of you.  One that a potential new employer would want to see.  It never hurts to take anything down that might be questionable.  If you don’t plan to change anything on your profiles, then at least consider making them private and putting them on lock down.

I have heard of more and more businesses taking the time to check people out on the net so they can get a better insight to them.  We all clean up nicely and can provide proper answers in an interview, but companies want to know it isn’t just an act.  Although they may have held you captive for 20-30 minutes in an interview, just how much can they really discover about you.  By searching online they can sometimes obtain additional information that will help move you forward or bring your application to a screeching halt.

Go ahead, cyber stalk yourself for a day.  The next time you take a moment to Google your blind date, consider that they might be doing the same to you and check yourself out for a change.  Your online presence can be a powerful part of selling yourself to a new company, so make wise decisions about what you put online and take charge about what can be seen.  After all, we all want to be seen as the perfect choice whether it is for a date or a new job so make sure your online “bios” match that image.

Leave a comment

Filed under Dating, Female Management Skills

Maybe Men Should Ask “What Would The Fonz Do?”

I have watched multiple forms of technology evolve over my life span.  From computers to gaming systems, and even the electronics offered within a vehicle, technology keeps changing each day and it is usually for the better.  On the other hand, it seems as if the art of “wooing” took a tragic turn for the worst at some point and has almost completely disappeared.

I can now purchase a car that can drive itself, access an unlimited amount of information at the drop of a hat via the internet, and one astronaut even got to be Skyped into the delivery room to watch his wife give birth.  However, if I go out at night dressed to the nines, the best attempt at wooing I might receive from a man today is a sub-par, over-priced drink (on a good night).  Then, an offer to go onto the dance floor so he can rub up on me in front of hundreds of others with the same idea.  Someone please tell me when did men suddenly believe that wooing was a dead art form that should no longer be used?

Within the last year I discovered that there are still a few gentlemen out there that know how to court and woo a gal.  “How?” you might ask.  My boyfriend patiently courted me and pulled out all the stops on his journey of winning me over.  Even in my jaded, post-failed marriage state he managed to make me realize that this is an experience all women should get to go through.   Forget accepting a guy as “perfect,” (and I use that term very loosely) just because he opened one door at some point on your first date.  Screw that!  Have someone open EVERY door he beats you to-for over a year.  It shouldn’t just be something that occurs on first dates or Valentine’s Day.  It’s time that women expect more because it is what we traditionally give back to those we are interested in.

Think of it this way, when people wanted to boycott the oil leak in the gulf, they stopped using BP’s services until the leak was stopped.  Customers saw the reaction they wanted from the company.  Why not try that on today’s men?  Seriously!  Boycott their bad habits and behaviors.  They shouldn’t have what they want until they are willing to give us what we deserve.

You want guys to wear their jeans so that we don’t have to see their boxers hanging out?  You want men to put the effort into a relationship that we do?  You want a man to make you feel special and woo you into dating him?  Just stop accepting less as being all right.  Saggy drawers wouldn’t be a trend if women swore off men who dressed in this manner.  Crappy relationships wouldn’t exist if we didn’t let them continue on in that manner; hence my divorce.  Men would learn how to court women again if that was what it took for them to earn a spot in our lives.  It’s what Wally and the Beav had to do, so why should it be any different now?

2 Comments

Filed under Dating